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Lying to yourself: Why positive affirmations work

2018 was a hard year for a lot of people.  I feel like the majority of my Facebook news feed all year long was people struggling. They were sick, they were stressed, they hated their boss, they hated their body, they hated their ex, they hated hate. I sent more virtual hugs than I can even count. (Please don’t be creeped out.  They were platonic, I promise.)

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I was right there in the mix, struggling alongside so many loved ones and Facebook acquaintances. So many times, I tried to only share positivity in my posts, in the hopes of brightening someone’s day, but I wonder how effective that actually is. Does it make you feel better to see someone else’s lollipops and rainbows when you are suffering a deluge of shit on a daily basis? This is something to think about (authenticity vs. an attempt to be positive.)

Anyway, there is a practice I started in 2018 that I think really helped, and I know can help whoever reads this. It is some hippie level shit, so be forewarned: People too cool for believing in the abundance of the universe and the law of attraction, now is the time to skedaddle.

Every day, I use 3 resources to ingrain some positivity into my brain which I will detail below. Did you know that your brain is so f-ing powerful, but also incredibly fragile? It has the power to believe whatever you tell it, which is a bad thing and a good thing depending on how you look at it. The great thing about that is that you can feed it the information you want it to have, and over time it will believe you.  (Science nut? Check out this cool article)

  • First, I use an app called Affirmations. Every day, it gives you a randomly generated phrase to say to yourself.  For instance, today’s was: “I am constantly learning about people and how I can better relate to them.”
  • Next, I use an app called HayHouse VB. It allows you to create a virtual vision board.  You can include meaningful phrases, images, or progress charts for whatever your goals may be.
  • Lastly, I use the Notes app on my phone to read phrases to myself.  These are going to be unique to you, so make sure to come up with something that carries meaning.  One of mine is: “I am capable of giving and receiving love.”

This will be difficult at first, because you will not believe the things you are reading. They will seem contrived and false and full of impossible hope.  But that big beautiful brain of yours just needs time to heal and learn just how true they are.

Try these out for 90 days! I guarantee your brain will thank you.


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