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How do you talk to yourself? How do you talk about yourself? I made a post about positive affirmations a while back. They may sound hokey, but I truly believe they work.
Did you know that your brain is incredibly elastic? It is not easy, and it takes dedication, but with time, your brain will believe the things you tell it. Crazy, right?
What are positive affirmations?
…positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/affirmations.htm
They have a lot of really amazing benefits for your mind! According to the above article, regular positive affirmations can help improve:
- Stress levels
- Work performance
- Mood issues, like depression
They really are key for a happy healthy brain, and should be practiced daily.
A little about me
I have struggled with low self esteem for as long as I can remember. In high school, I struggled a lot with loneliness. I didn’t really have a lot of friends. We had just moved to a new school district, and I missed my old friends.
College was when my bipolar symptoms began to present and that came with its own set of challenges. I was very insecure about the way my brain was treating my body, and didn’t know how to deal with it.
After I got married, and had our first child, I became plagued with body image issues. My body looked like the body of someone who had just had a baby, but my brain was telling me that was not good enough. That I was capable of more.
Pretty much my entire life I have wondered, What if I was prettier, or smarter, or wasn’t bipolar, or more in shape? What if I was a better wife or friend or mother?
These thoughts have poisoned my outlook on life for decades and I finally decided to do something about it.
What can you do to be positive?
The easiest way to get started with a more positive outlook is to write down these negative things you think about yourself.
- I’m not pretty enough
- I don’t like my body
- I’m not a good wife
- I’m not a good mother
- My mental illness makes me unlovable
- I wish I was smarter
- Why can’t I get my emotions under control?
It is difficult to put on paper, so to speak. After all, these thoughts remind us of the things we feel most insecure about. However, it is necessary to acknowledge these deeply ingrained thoughts before you can change them. You have to adequately say goodbye to them, like they are an old friend.
Next, write a 2nd list with NEW affirmations that you will say to yourself on a daily basis.
- I am beautiful the way I am
- My body has done wonderful things
- I am a good wife
- My children love me and I do my best
- Despite my mental illness, I am very loved
- I am smart and capable
- I am working daily to control my emotions
Tape these affirmations on your bathroom mirror, and repeat them every morning when you wake up. Then, crumble up that old list and throw it away. (Or burn it if you want to really send a message to your brain.)
If you REALLY want to send a message to your brain that enough is enough, you need to up your self care game.
I saw a great post recently about creating a “self care box” for yourself, and I thought it was a fantastic idea. Basically, you gather supplies that will make you feel better when you are having a bad day. What can you put in it?
- A pair of fuzzy socks
- Your favorite nail polish
- A good book
- A bag of delicious chocolate
- A crossword puzzle book
- Affirmations cards
Also, I always recommend a purchasing a good journal for anyone struggling with negativity and self worth. It feels so incredible to get your thoughts down on paper. Writing is:
These are all feelings we need to feel if we want to eventually live a more emotionally complete life. Make it a priority to write for 5 minutes a day to start. You can always work your way up from there.Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration
Give positivity a try
Self care and positive affirmations are integral for mental health. We need to be taking time, daily if possible, for things that make us feel happy and warm and fuzzy inside.
When you are depressed, it can be hard to commit to this as a daily practice. Start with once a week. Write it on your calendar and treat it as an appointment with yourself. Once it becomes a habit to do it one time a week, you can increase it to two times, and go from there.
As I said in this post, the way you talk about yourself has a massive impact on your mental health. It can be hard to accept positivity as a solution when you are depressed, but it is something that is worth trying for everyone.
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Comment below and let me know: in what areas of your life do you struggle with positivity? Have you ever tried positive affirmations?
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