What to do when you’re struggling

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What to do when you’re stressed

This. Exactly. The struggle is real.

Hey there. Are you stressed? Are you going through an extra hard time?

I want to start off by saying: There is no shame in that.

My goal in starting this blog was to help people solve problems. I like taking people’s insecurities and issues and struggles and helping them find solutions. I am not necessarily a natural nurturer, but I am an empath, and I don’t like seeing people going through difficult times.  It makes me feel bad.

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Let’s be real for a second

Today, I don’t really have any genius, never seen before, solutions to present. It’s one of those days where I have just enough to get by. 

But if I could guess, that’s not why you’re reading this post anyway. I think you’re reading this because you wanted to hear from a mom that is going through the same things you are.

You want to feel heard.

You want to feel seen.

You’re craving validation.

Validation time: I am driving the struggle bus through a circus of fire and oh crap, the brakes are giving out.

I’m tired, I have a stomach ache, I’m anxious, I’m crabby.

There is shame in the mom struggle at times.  I think as a society we are getting better, but there is still the omnipresent undertone of, “Wow.  That B is a mess.  Get your life together.” Rather than linking arms and Red Rovering the shit out of life together, it is sometimes easier to turn our nose up, and say, “Well, at least it isn’t me.”

It sounds cliché but we all need to stick together.

Have you ever been mom shamed? It sucks, doesn’t it?

That’s why I’m reaching out to you with this post. I want to break the cycle and create a new one.

Instead of “stressed mom -> vents -> people react negatively” we need to implement the following:

Stressed mom -> uses coping strategy -> feels better -> shares with fellow stressed people -> people feel understood.

Can you commit to this with me? If you can, share this post and comment below with: I can do it!

What to do when you’re stressed

What to do when you’re struggling

Here is a list of things you can try when you’re struggling. None of it is revolutionary, but I’m hoping it resonates with you.

  • Take a hot bath
  • ESCAPE the house
  • Snuggle with your kiddos
  • Write it down every time something good happens
  • Journal
  • Call in for back up
  • Break a sweat at the gym
  • Eat well (don’t load up on junk)
  • Read a good book

Here are some of my favorite “de-stress” products:

Amazon Brand – Solimo Epsom Salt Soak, Magnesium Sulfate USP, 8 Pound

The Night Circus (one of my favorite books!)

Fire HD 8 Tablet (8″ HD Display, 16 GB) – Black

Zen as Fck: A Journal for Practicing the Mindful Art of Not Giving a Sht (Zen as F*ck Journals)


What to do when you’re stressed

Advice about struggle

Don’t be ashamed of your struggles. Don’t let them be a quilt that you snuggle under on a rainy day. Live them out loud. Share them.  PUBLICLY.  (I know that’s a bit scary, so take it one step at a time.)

I know I’m not yet some Nobel Prize winning blogger whose story will reach millions and change the world. But if admitting that I am struggling can help even one person make their life a little better… Well, I truly and wholeheartedly believe that that is what life is all about.

What to do when you’re stressed

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8 thoughts on “What to do when you’re struggling”

  1. It’s so hard to be a mum (or dad), even without mental illness on top of it. I have so much respect for parents because I honestly feel like I would lose my mind.
    As much as I want kids, I see how I was treated growing up and it scares me. What if I end up becoming my mum? You know?

    Anyway, I hope you take some of your own advice today and once the kiddies see Santa, you take that bath!

    1. I’m drawing the bath now! I was gonna escape around 520 for the rest of the night and have Ken feed the kids and put them to bed… but then he said, “do you want an extra half hour?” ??

  2. Snuggle with the kiddos! I know the feeling from snuggling my cousins and little brother. It is a precious feeling and something I have felt more then once through writing about it in my books.

    A soak out in our hot tub under the stars makes all the worries sink away. 🙂

    1. Ooh a hot tub under the night sky sounds heavenly. I soaked up a ton of snuggles today! My 4 year old is particularly lovey lately and it made me feel better

  3. Thank you for posting this! I’m a college student who is overloaded with class, work, and extra curricular activities. This was the validation I needed to keep pushing on!

    1. Thanks for the feedback! I’m so glad you liked it! Keep up all the hard work. Hopefully the finish line (or easier times) is right around the corner

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