This. Exactly. The struggle is real.
Hey there. Are you stressed? Are you going through an extra hard time?
I want to start off by saying: There is no shame in that.
My goal in starting this blog was to help people solve problems. I like taking people’s insecurities and issues and struggles and helping them find solutions. I am not necessarily a natural nurturer, but I am an empath, and I don’t like seeing people going through difficult times. It makes me feel bad.
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Let’s be real for a second
Today, I don’t really have any genius, never seen before, solutions to present. It’s one of those days where I have just enough to get by.
But if I could guess, that’s not why you’re reading this post anyway. I think you’re reading this because you wanted to hear from a mom that is going through the same things you are.
You want to feel heard.
You want to feel seen.
You’re craving validation.
Validation time: I am driving the struggle bus through a circus of fire and oh crap, the brakes are giving out.
I’m tired, I have a stomach ache, I’m anxious, I’m crabby.
There is shame in the mom struggle at times. I think as a society we are getting better, but there is still the omnipresent undertone of, “Wow. That B is a mess. Get your life together.” Rather than linking arms and Red Rovering the shit out of life together, it is sometimes easier to turn our nose up, and say, “Well, at least it isn’t me.”
It sounds cliché but we all need to stick together.
Have you ever been mom shamed? It sucks, doesn’t it?
That’s why I’m reaching out to you with this post. I want to break the cycle and create a new one.
Instead of “stressed mom -> vents -> people react negatively” we need to implement the following:
Stressed mom -> uses coping strategy -> feels better -> shares with fellow stressed people -> people feel understood.
Can you commit to this with me? If you can, share this post and comment below with: I can do it!
What to do when you’re struggling
Here is a list of things you can try when you’re struggling. None of it is revolutionary, but I’m hoping it resonates with you.
- Take a hot bath
- ESCAPE the house
- Snuggle with your kiddos
- Write it down every time something good happens
- Call in for back up
- Break a sweat at the gym
- Eat well (don’t load up on junk)
- Read a good book
Here are some of my favorite “de-stress” products:
The Night Circus (one of my favorite books!)
Advice about struggle
Don’t be ashamed of your struggles. Don’t let them be a quilt that you snuggle under on a rainy day. Live them out loud. Share them. PUBLICLY. (I know that’s a bit scary, so take it one step at a time.)
I know I’m not yet some Nobel Prize winning blogger whose story will reach millions and change the world. But if admitting that I am struggling can help even one person make their life a little better… Well, I truly and wholeheartedly believe that that is what life is all about.
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I’m struggling, dammit. Feel free to comment below and share your journey. Let’s hold hands and be friends.
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